Friends with benefits. A little something two adults engage in because they are mature enough to understand that things won’t work out between the two of them but they are not quite mature enough to keep it in their pants.
While I do understand that you can benefit from FWB since it helps in ridding horniness and loneliness, I have to admit that the risks of engaging in FWB for women far exceeds the benefits.
First things first, to engage in a FWB relationship means that you are at least attracted to your male friend physically. Even though you knew that a relationship won’t work out, your primal instinct as a women to want a committed relationship still stands regardless of all the logic you keep telling yourself. And FWB is step away from a committed relationship, not towards it. This is because men’s primal instinct is to spread their seeds while women’s primal instinct is to get the male to commit and provide for themselves as well as their offspring. FWB satisfies men since sex is the main objective of a man and the female loses out since they have given away their only leverage to get men to commit. This automatically makes it strategically stupid for women to engage in FWB.
Other than that, there are other risks women have to consider before engaging in FWB. One of it is pregnancy. Who is going to take care of your baby if you do get pregnant? When you sign up for FWB, you are signing up for the guy not being responsible for anything that goes on with you as long as it is related to sex. Another is STDs. Getting STDs is embarrassing enough. But how are you going to explain the way you contract STDs?
All in all, FWBs does not benefit women at all. I do not recommend it but I do realise that the temptation is great, especially if you are attracted to the guy.
In this post, you will learn:
- Men’s primal instinct.
- Women’s primal instinct.
- Why women shouldn’t engage in FWB.